Feelings, we all have them.
It’s not that you have feelings, it’s what you do with them that counts. We all know that ‘good’ feelings are desirable. Who doesn’t want to feel joy, love, appreciation to name a few? It’s those ‘bad’ feelings that we tend to want to avoid. Self-doubt, anger, hatred, frustration are not usually our favored states.
Here’s what happens when we don’t FEEL our emotions. The mind goes into overdrive, either looking for a solution or a way out. The body goes into a state of unrelenting stress and tension. The Spirit steps back, retracts from the form, as the confusion makes the inner voice less likely to be felt and heard. Have you ever heard the phrase,’ I was beside myself ‘? Exactly !, your essence is out of sync and off center from your form. But most importantly the emotional body goes into a state of over-expression or constipation.
Let’s explore these states. Over-expression can be observed as acting out, yelling, passive aggressive or depressive episodes. All kinds of wild, over active responses can include over eating, over spending, over working, over sleeping and many addictive behaviors. Yes, we need to express our emotions and the challenge is to express them in healthy ways and not to point them at anyone.
Let’s talk about emotional constipation. This can be experienced as actual constipation, as in not wanting to ‘let go’ or it can be expressed as compartmentalization of the energy. When we compartmentalize our feelings we are really stuffing them. But where do they go? Emotions that are unexpressed and consistently suppressed go deep, deep within our subconscious and also deep within our bodies. Who has not had aches and pains? These are your trapped, unexpressed feelings. Yes, still there waiting to be acknowledged and released. With no other way to get our attention, the body begins to hurt. Sometimes the unexpressed and unacknowledged feelings will attract accidents and unpleasant experiences into our lives.
What is the solution? One very easy way to rearrange this pattern is to begin allowing ourselves to feel. Here we go, something happens that hurts you, upsets you. We do not live in a culture that encourages us to express emotions so we must create an accepting environment to allow feelings to emerge and be felt. I find the bathroom a good place for this but it could be sitting on the edge of your bed, first thing or last thing of the day.
Exercise: Bring your attention to your heart, say a silent thank you to yourself for doing the best that you can. ALLOW a tiny spark of self acceptance to ignite within you. It doesn’t matter how good or bad you think you are, nothing matters at this moment other than to foster self-compassion. Up from somewhere deep within will come that feeling, the one you never wanted to feel again. As it appears, think of yourself as a vessel, the feeling rises up and out of you. UP and OUT. It is painful, in every way, you want to suppress it and NOT go there. FEEL for 30 seconds beyond this point………………. There ! You are done for today. Not so horrible as you thought. You are still here, still breathing, nothing has changed ………………..only now you are one ounce lighter, maybe two.
YOU ARE A SUCCESS ! With each repetition of this exercise you will find that THIS moment CAN be unburdened. We, each as individuals, are the only one who can unload the wagon. Bit by bit, releasing the pressure and returning to the natural state of dynamic equilibrium that we are intended to be.
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Thank you so much for reading. Many blessings deb